The same is true of our individualized needs, wants, desires and even fears.
Therefore my next several posts will be taken up with the matter of submissive training.
This seems a good place to insert a small disclaimer.
The idea of submissive training makes us feel uneasy and insecure because we have so little knowledge about it.
When I faced submissive training for the first time, I immediately turned to books and the web to discover what I would be facing and what I’d be expected to do. I learned that there was a surprising lack of specific information about it anywhere.
The vacuum of specific information only added to my feelings of insecurity.
The absence of hard facts made the whole situation all the more intimidating.
In other words, in the training process, all the instruction flows downhill from the Master to his slave and all learning is absorbed by the slave. Training is in fact a continuum where instruction and learning flows back and forth in both directions. Yes, the Master instructs and the slave learns yet at the same time the Master is also learning and in a sense being taught.
Perhaps not in the sense that the dominant is learning new skills or techniques, but he is learning about the new submissive, his own unique personality, capabilities and proclivities.
It must always be kept in mind that what I share is anecdotal in that it comes from my own personal experiences and is colored by my own perceptions.
This overview I think can have value and can at least in a general way, shed some light on what you can expect from being trained. It is easy to assume, given the dynamics of a power exchange relationship, that training is a proverbial one-way street.
Yet it isn't the number of categories that is important but what a submissive should be expected that he or she will be taught, learn and experience within the different areas. As we go along, I will endeavor to explain in detail what may be expected in each area and will also provide some illustrative examples from my own personal experiences.