Lesson learned: Always drive yourself or Uber on a first date."The worst [date I’ve been on] was online.In his profile, he was really put together, but I show up and he looked completely different than his photos. We barely spoke — there’s no way he had a good time. He left me this three-minute voicemail explaining all the ways I was wrong for taking him off my Instagram and about how we would never speak again. Then he sent an email to my work address."That’s fine, but they’re also so uncomfortable defining the relationship, even if it’s just to clarify if you are or are not hooking up with anyone else.
You will not meet them in the grocery store on aisle five.You have to be more intentional with the places and events you frequent."I feel like for guys there are a lot of options.That has not happened."And that’s an expectation a lot of the guys here have.There’s nothing wrong with that, but I’m very independent and that’s not who I am, so dating has been a little hard for me.One time, a guy and I bought a bunch of sparkling grape juice and went to look at stars out in a corn field far from town.
It was a great date."If one day I am in my 30s and I get frantic, I might try it again.
Also, it’s a stereotype, but the guys here are nicer.
I've had guys in New York tell me they are surprised that I eat so much because I'm on the smaller side, but with Chicago guys, you can order a burger or steak and they won't blink an eye."Even if you do go on a date, alcohol is still involved. Honestly, if you don’t involve yourself in the party culture, your best chance at dating is meeting someone in class."I've seen more actual going on dates and spending time together instead of just ‘talking’ (or hooking up) in the beginning of relationships.
Most places you meet people around here are pretty centered around alcohol, like country-line dancing places and bars.
You have to really get yourself into faith-based groups to find someone.
It also seems that people are either married or dating someone.